Feb10WedFebruary 10, 2016
I don’t like asking for help. Perhaps it’s because I’m the oldest in my family. Perhaps it’s because my parents instilled in me the Mid-Western, just do it, work ethic. Or perhaps it’s because I still hold onto a heap of pride.
Either way, my autonomous attitude was tested one year ago when we brought our premature twins home from the hospital. Our boys needed a sterile, warm environment at home for several weeks with a consistent three hour feeding schedule. Our mothers had already agreed to help, but my wife knew that much more help was necessary. I wasn’t too convinced. A friend offered to clean our house. I thought, “No, we can handle it.” Another offered to organize meals. I thought, “No, we can handle it.” Another offered to transport our older kids to school and play with them. Same answer. Finally, after a few days of exhaustion, my pride crumbled. Then I said, “Please, help us however you can! We absolutely need it!”
Pride is a sticky sin. It can be barely noticeable until one tries to remove it. Then it quickly clings to every thought, action and word. Pride is also dangerous. When we give it room, pride convinces us that we don’t need help – either from God or from other people. Had I not surrendered my pride and welcomed the help of our friends, I am certain that our family and my marriage would not be as strong as is it today. Scripture would have once again proven itself true in that “pride goes before destruction” (Proverbs 16:18).
What are the areas in your life that pride clings to? Would it be safe to assume that pride even cripples your walk with the Lord? I have been serving in full-time ministry for over ten years and can say, from experience, that pride runs rampant among believers.
Scripture teaches us that pride keeps us from seeking after God (Psalm 10:4). But pride also has a profound impact on growing in authentic community. Pride keeps us from supporting and forgiving one another as we are commanded in Colossians 3:13. It keeps us from confessing our sins to one another in order that we can experience healing (James 5:16). Pride keeps disciples of Jesus Christ from experience the deeper waters of spiritual community.
Consider this. When is the last time that you asked someone the following questions…
I presume that many church attenders desire to ask these questions, but sticky pride glues our mouths shut! We are afraid of admitting weakness – even among our Christian friends!
But here’s the thing, we absolutely must! Jesus doesn’t expect his disciples to become self-sufficient. Just the opposite! He expects his disciples to grow more dependent! That’s why he said, “Come, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me" (Matthew 11:28-29). Surrender comes before growth. When we admit to one another that we have need, then the Lord shows us how to learn from Him together.
I encourage you to surrender you pride and ask for help in the areas that you know you need it. I promise you that you can't handle your life by yourself. Instead, there is strength to be found, through Christ, when we admit that we’re all in this together.