Apr27TueLove Changes Everything April 27, 2021
Love, they say is in the eye of the beholder. Love, they say, is a verb. Love, they say, makes the world go around. Remember the attention you gave to the one you “fell” in love with? Time seemed to fly by as you talked for hours. You gave gifts and didn’t want to be apart from each other. The day came and you committed to “loving” for the rest of your life. Then something happened. The chemistry changed. Now, before I hear a loud “amen” from some, let me explain why things changed. Scientists have studied the many chemical reactions our bodies go through when being newly in love. The brain temporarily overproduces norepinephrine, dopamine, oxytocin and other hard to pronounce chemicals. The neuroscience of love continues to be explored, but some things seem certain. Love, or should I say loving, changes you.
Imagine someone who buys an old car and decides to fix it up. First, he may replace the seat covers, then a new side mirror. He adds pin striping to the sides and replaces the radio. The amount of time and energy is noticed by his wife. She is alone, wondering what she did to be neglected by him. One day after polishing and protecting the car, he taps the hood and says, “She’s a beauty, I love her!”
Indeed he spent time loving his car. The energy and attention formed a bond that changed him, and change is what happens when we choose to love. The older we get the more we decide where our love goes and where it doesn’t go.
Revelation 2:4-5 “But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first.”
When we stop spending time talking, giving, sharing, and pursuing, who we should love, we end up deceiving ourselves and placing our love somewhere else. If you find you are no longer “in love”, then the good news is that it is possible to go back to doing what we did at first and find love all over again.
Many wonder what happened to the zeal they felt when they first became a Christian. The newfound joy of being forgiven, the daily presence of God’s Spirit, and the assurance of eternal life in Heaven made this new relationship like none other. After a few years, however, priorities change, desires seem to wane and complacency can set in.
Hebrews 10:32 “Think back on those early days when you first learned about Christ. Remember how you remained faithful”
The principle is the same, whatever you give attention too, will transform you. Become curious again, study and spend time together, think of ways of giving, make showing love a priority and you’ll soon see it changes everything for the good. That’s the funny thing about love, it’s the love you give that changes you. This applies to anyone and is a choice each person needs to make. That is why the Bible repeatedly commands us to “Love the Lord your God.”
Lord, help me return to loving you as I should and watching how that changes me.