Jun8WedJune 8, 2016
Around the age of thirteen, my father took me on a road trip to have “the talk.” I don’t remember very much about this event except that we listened to an audio series about sexuality and puberty. The time together with my dad was helpful, but pretty awkward. Therefore, when the trip ended, I kept any remaining questions to myself and closed myself off from any further discussion. The rest of my sex education came from school, my friends and our secular culture. I don't blame my father for this. He was doing his best to inform me. What was missing was the constant flow of communication about this difficult subject.
Over my years in serving in the church, I have learned that my experience is not unique among many other Christian families. Generally speaking, parents feel ill-equipped to talk about sex with their children and as a result either formalize “the talk” into an event during the pre-teen years or don’t ever speak of it and secretly hope that their child doesn’t even think about sex until they get married.
Due to these two strategies, parents often become the LAST place that children go to with their questions about sexuality. That’s a huge problem – especially in light of our changing culture!
On average, children are exposed to sexually explicit and pornographic material by the age of 12. Between 80-90% of all Billboard Top 40 songs feature lyrics which are explicit in nature and regard sex as a casual event. This means that even before puberty hits, North American children will likely hear or see a glimpse into this topic through a source that isn’t led by the Word of God.
Since this has been the growing trend, younger generations of people are de-linking marriage and sex. According to 2016 study, conducted by the Barna Research Group, sex is no longer viewed as a function of procreation or intimacy. Primarily, younger generations view sex as a personal experience. Therefore, their definition of healthy sexuality is to do whatever makes them ‘feel the best.’ That varies dramatically from God’s design which says, “The man shall hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).
I mention all of this because it’s time for Christian parents and grandparents to step up and begin teaching our children about their body and healthy sexuality before they hear it from secular influences. We need to be willing to discuss sexual topics at age-appropriate times and, as a church, have a strong, Scripturally sound, counter-narrative to the one perpetuated by our hyper-sexualiaed culture. That is what our current mini-series is about.
Throughout the month of June, my goal is to guide us through 1 Corinthians 6 and 7 in order to give us the proper tools to talk about sex, marriage and singleness in a way that honors God and easily transferable to our younger generations . This coming Sunday, I encourage you to send your children to New Generation Worship so we can speak candidly about sexuality before digging into the topics of marriage and singleness in the weeks to come. Also, we will be offering a parenting workshop on Wednesday, August 3rd on “How to Raise Gender-Confident Children in a Gender-Confused Culture.”
The world is constantly talking about sexuality, but they’ve exchanged the truth of God for a lie. Let’s join the conversation…with Scripture as our guide!